a simple step to better life...

[Simple Steps by Dr Arthur Caliandro]
Settle with the Past and Move On

We are products of everything that has ever happened to us -- a sum total of all our successes, failures, disappointments, and triumphs. Our childhoods are still with us every day. So are our mothers, our fathers, all the people who had a part in raising us, and -- to a greater or lesser extent -- every person we have ever known.
Who we are today is a combination of all the experiences we have had and all the reactions we have had to them.
Yet does our past determine our futures? To some extent, but not entirely. There's something even more important than the past we've had. It's our reaction and response to those experiences.
In other words, what counts is how effectively we are dealing with the past.
Many of us run a real danger of becoming crippled by the past, unable to move beyond it. And if that happens, we become its prisoner. I am continually amazed at the number of people I have talked with -- people in their seventies, eighties, and even nineties -- who remain stuck in their childhood traumas.
That needn't happed to us. As we grow and mature, we have a choice to make. We can choose to remain victims of the past or learn to deal with our earlier lives in a way that serves us, not cripples us. We can find ways to learn and grow from everything that has ever happened to us.
Whether your past has been happy or sad, troubled or calm, today is a new day. It is a chance to move on.

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This is so true in an important aspect of my life... I am totally crippled by my past, unconsciously...

... today is a new day. It is a chance to move on.